Transgendered Versus The Hybrid
- Sunday Jun 6th, 2010
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Recently I received a most intriguing letter from a person who follows my blog/vlog. Actually, I receive quite a few daily, but this one particularly stood out...
The reason being is because it, for the most part, asked me to look at myself with my own eyes, and not through the eyes of society... something that I consider most difficult to do...
Dysphoria... it's a total bitch... and being transgendered means having dysphoria.... or does it?
Let me ask you a couple of questions, and you tell me your honest opinion... Would you, if society accepted, and had a place for transgendered people, seek out so desperately HRT/SRS/GRS/FFS/BA procedures?
If society had no problem with you, would you still have a problem with you?
If transgendered people were "understood", and had a significant role in human culture, would you accept yourself, as you are, or would you still seek to change?
When I sit here and ponder what a world that would be, I would have to answer NO, I would not have changed myself so much... YES, I would've been happy to live in my hybrid existence, and at the same time, have a deep contentment for that...
This ultimately defines something significant for me atleast, which is that dysphoria is a product of our unrealistic expectations to ever pass complete as women... It is one of these impossible fights, because the fact of the matter is, that we are not biological women... but that isnt to say that, that is a bad thing...
The reason why this idea resonates so strongly with me, is because I am one of these people who seeks to make sense of the things they do not understand... Particularly, I am intrigued, and mystified by men who, not so much "seek" trans women, but those who have fallen in love with a trans woman, and have accepted the hybrid aspect of the person they love.
No doubt this has occurred many, many times throughout history, but because of cultural/religious/political influence, has been under-played and overlooked as a significant part of human sexuality. I know from experience that a completely heterosexual man can be sexually content in their pre-op transgendered partner. That doesn't change the fact that he still is sexually attracted to genetic women, but yes, from my experience, it can evolve... and love truly does overcome all boundaries.
So if love, and sexuality can overcome these boundaries, then why can't we ourselves overcome them? For me, sexuality concerning trans women is one of the main focal points when I try to find a place for transgenderism in society. If sexuality naturally provides an acceptance for transgenderism, and sexuality is as defining of humanity as intellect, then it must be part of the key to understanding our "natural" place within society.
SO let it rip... Tell me what you think of this theorized, idealized world I've created, and let me know what your response would be if the world understood, accepted, and had a place for you.
The reason being is because it, for the most part, asked me to look at myself with my own eyes, and not through the eyes of society... something that I consider most difficult to do...
Dysphoria... it's a total bitch... and being transgendered means having dysphoria.... or does it?
Let me ask you a couple of questions, and you tell me your honest opinion... Would you, if society accepted, and had a place for transgendered people, seek out so desperately HRT/SRS/GRS/FFS/BA procedures?
If society had no problem with you, would you still have a problem with you?
If transgendered people were "understood", and had a significant role in human culture, would you accept yourself, as you are, or would you still seek to change?
When I sit here and ponder what a world that would be, I would have to answer NO, I would not have changed myself so much... YES, I would've been happy to live in my hybrid existence, and at the same time, have a deep contentment for that...
This ultimately defines something significant for me atleast, which is that dysphoria is a product of our unrealistic expectations to ever pass complete as women... It is one of these impossible fights, because the fact of the matter is, that we are not biological women... but that isnt to say that, that is a bad thing...
The reason why this idea resonates so strongly with me, is because I am one of these people who seeks to make sense of the things they do not understand... Particularly, I am intrigued, and mystified by men who, not so much "seek" trans women, but those who have fallen in love with a trans woman, and have accepted the hybrid aspect of the person they love.
No doubt this has occurred many, many times throughout history, but because of cultural/religious/political influence, has been under-played and overlooked as a significant part of human sexuality. I know from experience that a completely heterosexual man can be sexually content in their pre-op transgendered partner. That doesn't change the fact that he still is sexually attracted to genetic women, but yes, from my experience, it can evolve... and love truly does overcome all boundaries.
So if love, and sexuality can overcome these boundaries, then why can't we ourselves overcome them? For me, sexuality concerning trans women is one of the main focal points when I try to find a place for transgenderism in society. If sexuality naturally provides an acceptance for transgenderism, and sexuality is as defining of humanity as intellect, then it must be part of the key to understanding our "natural" place within society.
SO let it rip... Tell me what you think of this theorized, idealized world I've created, and let me know what your response would be if the world understood, accepted, and had a place for you.
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